How long is 10 years? When you are deeply in trouble, every second is like sitting on the bell; but the moon passes by suddenly, and you can't help but feel a moment of 10 years. And Yang Yue'e's 10 years were both difficult and unbearable, with her mother's youth, her sister's style, and her daughter's blood cancer; the pressure on her shoulders was too heavy! But Yang Yue'e just said lightly, "Mother used her life to inspire me and make me a gentle person."

Yang Yue'e said that she "transmitted" her mother's strength, control and perfection, and always wanted to do everything best and put pressure on herself and her body. But after accompanying her mother and daughter for a long-term care, her heart felt relieved. Although the "destiny gift" was heavy, after one after another, she learned what the club called "submission": no longer proves herself to anyone; life and death are not up to others, we can only live in the present and achieve a beautiful self.

"I hope to tell my story so that more people can understand that you have been able to get past now and will definitely get past in the future!" She shared her experience of caring in her new book, and also learned "reconciliation", "reconciliation with her parents, brothers and sisters, and reconciliation with herself."

"In the past, I had a deep 'die relationship'. I felt that my parents loved my elder brother and younger sister. I spent a lot of time complaining and slandering unfairness. I couldn't choose when I was born. I was the second child and I would never be able to turn over! I always talked about love with my father and mother, but I didn't get praise, and it has been a 50-year controversy."

Yang Yue'e suddenly realized during her care and care. It’s not that her parents don’t love us, but that we are “being deceived by memory” and are also being deceived by ourselves. Her parents just don’t love us the way we want; she feels deeper when she becomes parents and takes care of her parents.

"Later I found that my memory was wrong. They just didn't like me in front of me. Once I asked everyone to eat hot pot, and my mother insisted on leaving the beef for my elder brother's children. At that time, my sister and I both complained about my mother's preference, but later, I thought about it. My mother just felt sorry for her family who was doing business. Is it a bit harder to work? My mother often said that she reached out and her five fingers are not the same. How can she be fair in everything?"

During the care, the mother would beat her and slap her. At first, Yang Yue'e didn't understand. She realized that like her mother, she wanted to be "see" and "loved", but she couldn't find a way; how to remove it from the tight bundle, rely on herself to "repeat" and also rely on "seeking help".

"The elder brother replied to the doctor to make his mother feel angry. I was crying in the stairs! My friend Feng Peixia told me: If this must happen, and it was your decision, do you want your brothers and sisters to hate you? If you are a child, what should you do? I think about it carefully and my brother's aversion to me will be relieved. There are too many decisions and grievances in the process of taking care of me, and I am testing my wisdom every time."

Yang Yue'e said that there is no standard answer to how to take care of her, but you must find a way to make yourself comfortable, focus on your steps in front of you, and "rescue" at any time.

She once said to the previous person that it is difficult to take care of this road; but she went back to her, "There is no easy way in the world, you have to take care of your body before you can go on." So she continued to participate in the chorus, allowing herself to drink coffee, watch a movie, or watch mountains, watch the sea, and chat with friends, which all help to take care of the quality.

"I often share it with others. If my family is in the nursing ward, go and express it quickly. leaving the nursing ward is the beginning of the hard battle!"

Take care of her family and change to treat her mother-in-law sincerely. Before her mother fell ill, Yang Yue'e seized the opportunity to take her mother to travel domestically or abroad, or often have dinner and chat, and finally sent her mother to the remote business, she had no regrets in her heart; like the end of a single drama, her daughter eventually returned to college and her sister rehabilitated and successfully returned to her job.

10 years seem like a dream? Yang Yue'e has gained more, has a closer relationship with her family, and has a better relationship with her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. These are all gifts she had never expected before.

"Thank you, my husband, for letting me take my mother home. At first I didn't expect to take care of her for so many years; but unexpectedly, my relationship with my mother-in-law is getting better and better. Because she sees everything, I know that I will be good to her in the future."

"This year we went to Sun Moon Lake to play. I deliberately asked my husband to help my mother-in-law, so that he could notice my mother-in-law's needs. My mother-in-law also saw my carefulness. In private, I 'Thank you', but we used to be a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to help her!"

She said that everyone thinks they are very young, and everyone doesn't want their long-term care to happen in their own home, but what if you really become a caregiver?

"Stay early before you can stay with your parents and children until you are sick. Save our "emotional folds" at any time. These can help us make the most regrettable decisions in the dilemma of life."

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