Recently, the news related to the marriage between CPs Jiang Hong-jeong and Fukuhara's love couples and their wives has been sensational. What puzzled the public is that the strange marriages of the two people, like fairy tales, and various love behaviors, seemed to suddenly become a phantom overnight, piercing the public's red bubbles.

However, the bad habits of marriage cannot be measured by external secret behaviors and photo PO articles of social software. At the same time, marriage relations are constantly changing. Couples who love each other at the beginning may eventually become strangers due to conflicts; couples who quarrel endlessly when encountering obstacles can handle them smoothly. Fear conflicts may also make the relationship between husband and wife more closely. Regardless of how outsiders and themselves view their marriage, it is important to understand that marriage relationships are not static. Both people in a marriage need to constantly observe and learn the ways of marriage relationships. So how to improve the quality of marriage due to changes in marriage?

Shen Mengzhu, a consultant psychologist at the National Mental Health Center of Taipei City United Hospital, put forward the following suggestions:

1. Adjust expectations

. You must understand that the marriage status is constantly changing, and neither party can always maintain the hot period. If you continue to use the hot period To measure the other party's love, if the other party would send flowers to high-end restaurants during the past, no matter how they are, they must not love me, they will be disappointed and start to feel insecure about marriage. The other party will also be stressed, and it seems that it is not that they don't love the other party, but they just express it in different ways. No matter which side, you need to adjust your expectations for your partner at a time, and try to communicate to meet your expectations.

2. Try to change yourself first, not change your partner first

In marriage relationships, I often hear one of the parties saying that if I change OOXX, my love will not be affected, and I will feel happy and my marriage will be happy. When I continue to think about this, or start to think about the other party, the control of happiness and happiness lies with the other party, and the change may not be as I expected. Therefore, I need to try to think about where I can change from. I do not expect the other party to change first, which will help change the marriage relationship.

3. Reflecting on and presenting the promise of being with a partner

Although "marriage" is the biggest promise of being with a partner, it does not mean that other promises after marriage have become unimportant. Regardless of marriage relationships, it is currently in a good or bad situation. If you can pay attention to and present the promise of being with a partner, it will help make the relationship between the two parties more stable and confident that they can overcome the big and small difficulties in the marriage.

4. When the relationship between partners and two parties, there will be different opinions. From quarrels, seriousness may lead to divorce. It is necessary to remove the relationship between partners and us, or to use the opportunity to ejaculate the dissatisfaction of their partners. The key is how to take advantage of the situation of inconsistent opinions, understand the other party’s real ideas, try to deal with them, reduce future conflicts caused by similar events, and improve the quality of interaction between the two parties.

5. In marriage, there may be problems that cannot be resolved for a long time and lead to constant conflicts. This is a very common situation. Therefore, there is no need to over-suffer the problem of "all ”" marriage problems. It is important that the partner parties need to try to look at the differences between the other party from a respectful and broad perspective, even if they do not agree with the other party's behavior.

6. Maintaining the expression of love in daily life

The performance of love can make the partner feel "connected" and "connected". There are many different forms of expression of love, such as the feeling of the day, chat time before bed, traveling with the family, etc. Through these expressions of love, they can establish a new memory of the partner and the positive moments that belong to the two people together, which helps the marriage relationship be more stable.

7. Seeking professional assistance

Regarding how to increase marriage relations and handle conflicts in marriage, there are many related information on the Internet, or discussing with friends, you can get some general suggestions and channels to express emotions, but sometimes the difficulties and obstacles in marriage are often not manifest. The conflicting questions are related to the questions behind the scenes (such as the impact of the original family, etc.), or it is difficult to discuss the deep-seated issues of marriage with friends. The above can all be considered to seek help from professionals, consult psychologists for psychological counseling, discuss in-depth and individualized various situations in marriage relationships, and increase marriage relationships.

(Compiled by Changchun Monthly Journal/Editor, provided by article authorization/Health Medical Network)