[The key points of this article] A female netizen complained on the Internet that her mother-in-law lived in her house and asked for filial piety fees, which made her feel very uncomfortable. Some of her mother-in-law's life habits also made her difficult to accept, such as not knocking on the door when entering the room, not being clean and clean, etc. Although my daughter is six months old and my nanny has been hired, my mother-in-law still doesn't want to go home. A netizen left a message to give advice, hoping that her husband could communicate well with his mother-in-law and solve this problem.

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Many newlyweds prefer to form small families to pass through the world of two people after marriage to avoid rifts caused by living with their parents-in-law. A female netizen bought a house with her husband after marriage. When she was pregnant, her mother-in-law asked to move in with her to take care of her children. However, some of her mother-in-law's life habits made her difficult to accept, and she also asked for a 10,000 yuan filial piety fee. It was invalid to ask her husband to communicate with her, which made her unable to help but post a message to complain, "What should I ask her to go home and stop paying her to my house again."

{9 During her pregnancy, my mother-in-law asked to move in with her on the grounds that she could take care of the children, but she really didn't want to live with her mother-in-law. She thought it would be better to keep a little distance. It would be invalid to ask her husband to go and communicate, because her husband is the kind of personality that is difficult to refuse people, so after she returned home after her confinement, her mother-in-law moved in by herself.

My mother-in-law has a bad habit The PO of the nurse who helped her talk about 10,000 yuan of filial piety fee said that some of her mother-in-law's life habits really made her very difficult to accept. For example, when her daughter cried, her mother-in-law went directly into her room without knocking on the door, which was very unfair; the mother-in-law also asked her husband to pay 10,000 yuan of filial piety fee, because she helped her take the child. Even if I asked the nanny to take care of the child later, I still insisted on collecting 10,000 yuan, and I felt that I was forced to take out the money; and the other was the habit of cleaning. There were often unwashed dishes and chopsticks on the nanny's table, and when cooking, the soup juice drips on the tanner and doesn't clean it. I also mean to nanny to wash dishes and clothes, which made the original PO who had a habit of being unable to bear it.

Want to ask my mother-in-law to go home The original PO said that my daughter is more than 6 months old and her work and rest is relatively stable. She still continues to hire a nanny, but her mother-in-law still lives at home but doesn’t want to move back to Miaoli’s home. It’s still invalid for her to ask her husband to go there again. The mother-in-law said that her life here is better, she has a habit of living, and "I am qualified to live in my son's home." She asked, "Do you don’t want me to live?" The original PO was not polite and directly stated that she didn’t want to live with her, so the mother-in-law started crying and said that neither of them wanted her, which made the original PO unable to stand the anger and posted a message, "What should I ask her to go home and stop celebrating at my house."

The story was revealed, and netizens left messages saying "Treat your husband first", "Your husband is very careless, please be tough! Otherwise, you will also come here," "Turn it straight, if your mother doesn't go back, we will leave, as a show of your determination", "Tell your husband and mother-in-law to deal with the problem of mother-in-law and consider divorce", "Please move your husband back to the house of the mother-in-law after seeing the safety, and then ask your husband to move back", "If you don't do it, then ask your husband to pay the rent or buy a room nearby, so that the mother-in-law can live outside by herself."

Someone also made suggestions, "This problem will happen in every family. The elderly have a "scattered feeling", which is not something that can be filled with money/materials. It is not recommended to use the "sea dead net" method to deal with … if everything is handled with one knife and two cuts, it is difficult to guarantee which party is being blocked!", "Young people who have not yet organized a family should also pay attention to this problem. Don't leave home too far after marriage. It is best if someone goes home every day to eat with the elderly and listen to them. Brothers and sisters are flying …, this can be double-win. Don't make it into a double turn! ”