Writer Jiang Yu has a white and transparent skin, and a round and detailed lens on his face. He speaks softly and gracefully, and walks like a cat. Such a graceful lady wrote "The Record of the Growth of a Vulgar Girl", and was even adapted into a TV series, starring the popular Golden Horse Film Queen Xie Yingxuan, who talks about how fast he is no longer a "lady"!

When Jiang Zhuang, who was originally an ordinary office worker, said that publishing books and shooting TV shows were a series of accidents, and these changes all started after resigning.

A few years ago, Jiang Zhuang, who was 38 years old, was a senior office worker. He worked in German translation, had outstanding work performance, and was valued by his boss, and had a good salary. After get off work, you can order whatever you want. Spicy hotpot, potato noodles, and desserts are lined up, so you don’t have to worry about the weight of the money pack. If there is a holiday, I will fly to Japan for a few days and say I will leave.

Behind such a sudden inspiration, there is actually a deep anxiety that is being curled.

I was not at ease at work, and my body was also weak

The years of social upset made her realize that if she wanted to get promoted, she would eventually go against her conscience and climb up with her colleagues; and in addition, she grew up in a family with strict tutoring, from small to old, she always lived to meet the expectations of others. The pressure over the years has become so great that she can't bear it. "It's really hard and tiring to try to satisfy the boss, colleagues, and parents..."

In addition to being emotionally anxious, his skin was also seriously allergic. Jiang Zhu went to many clinics, and the doctors said at the same time, "You have to know how to adjust the pressure, have enough sleep, and don't go to bed late!" She smiled and said, "When I heard them say this, I knew they didn't have medicine to give me, so I could only rely on myself."

Jiang Zhusi came to find that if he wanted to completely deprive him of his current life, he had to work. "But without work, there is no income, so what should I do in my life? How should I explain to my parents? What is the next plan after I resigned?" Jiang Yu asked himself again and again, and his thoughts on leaving were clearer.

At the same time, Jiang Yu, who already has the habit of writing, often chats about the common memories of 6th-grade students after get off work with friends who edited in the publishing house. Compared with the heavy pressure encountered in real life, the past memories are so beautiful, so the two decided to publish a book to record that beautiful era.

After leaving the job, everything was right!

With the book plan, she finally submitted it to her. After working, she did not sleep until she was able to finish her daily schedule, and instead planned a schedule to do classes every day like a student, she would get up at 7 or 8 o'clock, and after breakfast, she placed herself at the desk to write a manuscript. "It's not a slim book! Sometimes I can't imagine what to write, so I do something different, such as playing cats, scrubbing nail polish, and taking photos online."

Once, when she was shopping online, she found the appliance she wanted to buy, so she started reading unboxing articles and comparing prices. "Comparing prices will really make me older than ever! I want to go shopping in Japan even more than I want to...."

But without a fixed income, she couldn't say that she would leave and often go to Japan like before. In order to maintain a basic marketing life, she will take on some translated cases and will do it even if she works until 2 o'clock in the middle of the night. Although the economic sources are uncertain, somewhat inconclusive and insecure, she has changed to spiritual freedom.

After a month of leaving, she found that the pressure was slowly disappearing and everything she did was right! Compared to the short and happy things piled up in the past, she was also very happy after leaving the job.

Then, the book "The Book of the Residents of the Growth of the Vulgar Women" was born.

After middle age, she will accept it and no longer complain about the world.

"Life is to fight forward two steps, and to take a step back with compromise. Just make sure that you don't deviate from the road too much and go in the direction you want to go."

At that time, she was 40 years old and would be the most ideal way to live. She had to learn to adjust and accept. "You can't blame the world after middle age, and always say 'This is not what I want'."

Jiang Zhui believes that middle-aged people have the ability to put themselves on the path of life that they "can accept". After middle age, either change or learn to accept, and you cannot always resent others.

From not only understanding the understanding of understanding, middle-aged people are closer to their parents

In addition to having some understanding of the choice of life direction, Jiang Yu slowly moved into middle-aged people, he also understood his parents better.

The ladylike breath of Jiang Zhuang and the ability to fight in society were all specially "trained" by his mother. She recalled that her mother was busy in the past. In addition to having Zhang Luo’s food, she also had to take care of the business at home. She was a very strong traditional woman and was very strict in teaching her children. The mother and daughter were not very close.

"I only realized when I grew up that when I was a child, she just wanted to give me more abilities to face setbacks."

The accumulated discovery during the growth process has been cured and changed. After Jiang Feng became a mature woman, her once "unexplained" turned into understanding. She would start chatting with her parents for a few more words, and even hugged them whenever she went away or drove back to Taipei to work hard from her hometown in Tainan..

"It was very twisted and unnatural at the beginning, but after a few times, I found that my parents would slowly "snake" (Taiwanese) beside me."

Every time I was going back to Taipei, she would first open the car to a fixed location and take the goods on the car, and her parents followed her, asking, "Did you get the fruit?" "Did you bring all the things?"

Jiang Zhui said one by one. After taking everything on the car, she would say, "Thank you for the dishes cooked by mother, thank you for the vegetables you gave me." Then she hugged her and drove north.

The love that touches the body is beyond words. Now, the atmosphere at Jiang Bi's house is no longer alienated, but is happy. Sometimes when parents are fighting, Jiang Bi and his younger brother will also go in, causing trouble to get away from the side, making the home even more popular.

In the second half of life, be what you like!

Jiang Yu spent the first half of her life as a "lady" that meets her parents' expectations and worldly expectations. After she was 39 years old, she decided that she only wanted to be a "little girl" that suited her wishes.

This vulgar woman is now in a smooth career and her relationship with her parents has been regained. Jiang Zhu said that if she goes to bed tonight, she will never wake up again and will not feel regretful.

When people reach middle age, they change with acceptance and complain a little. These three points are a good way for Jiang Zhu to embrace a bright future, and it is also a good way to win true joy and make every day without regrets.

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